Frush?
I think I am going to discuss something that most people don't mention to other people. A frush. It sounds almost like a disease doesn’t it, but it is fairly innocuous.
It’s the Friend Crush. (Friend + Crush = FRUSH)
When you have those few friends who you think are really cute, fun, and awesome but you have never considered dating them because you: don’t want to ruin the friendship, or you just don’t see it happening or they aren’t your typical type, maybe there are little things that would prevent you from dating long term or even short term, like you are already dating someone. But I used to believe that everyone has at least one friend crush in there life at a time, if not more, unless they just started dating someone and the relationship is all new.
Frushes are fun. Mostly because they are harmless and pretty much risk free. Maybe you are a little flirty, maybe you dress a little cuter when they are around, and in general you like having them around pretty regularly. Some frushes last a couple of days/hours/weeks until the novelty of the person wears off and you get bored. I have a long-term frush, whom I am really good friends with, and yes, he knows he is a frush (he doesn’t read this blog, but if he did, he would laugh, mostly because he would wonders why I persist in making up my own words). It is a long running joke, that I am waiting for him to fall in love with me and I will quit dating all those other guys, I tell him all the time I have a crush on him. But both of us know, the likelihood of us actually dating is nil, the longterm potential is not there, I want a guy who is pretty bold, and smart, who acts like a guy, who I know can take care of me (because he wants to not because he HAS to) and who makes me laugh, and my frush is really cute and super nice, but his personality is much MUCH more quiet than that and I am not really willing to risk it not working to try and see if it does, It seems much more complex now that I wrote that all out it works.
I think most people won’t cop to a frush, because they don’t want the drama of people not leaving well enough alone. A frush doesn’t automatically mean you want to date the person, but that doesn’t always work for other friends who will just pick at things until you hate that you mentioned anything in the first place. After talking to a friend this week though, I wonder if guys have Frushes… the gentlemen in question seemed to be saying if he wasn’t gaga over the girl (and at the time, he was hitting himself over the head with a waterbottle to illustrate his point) that he didn’t notice her. That made me think: hmm, maybe this is just a girl phenomenon, or maybe it is just a friends of mine thing, because they all have frushes…
Or maybe I am just weirder than previously estimated.
It’s the Friend Crush. (Friend + Crush = FRUSH)
When you have those few friends who you think are really cute, fun, and awesome but you have never considered dating them because you: don’t want to ruin the friendship, or you just don’t see it happening or they aren’t your typical type, maybe there are little things that would prevent you from dating long term or even short term, like you are already dating someone. But I used to believe that everyone has at least one friend crush in there life at a time, if not more, unless they just started dating someone and the relationship is all new.
Frushes are fun. Mostly because they are harmless and pretty much risk free. Maybe you are a little flirty, maybe you dress a little cuter when they are around, and in general you like having them around pretty regularly. Some frushes last a couple of days/hours/weeks until the novelty of the person wears off and you get bored. I have a long-term frush, whom I am really good friends with, and yes, he knows he is a frush (he doesn’t read this blog, but if he did, he would laugh, mostly because he would wonders why I persist in making up my own words). It is a long running joke, that I am waiting for him to fall in love with me and I will quit dating all those other guys, I tell him all the time I have a crush on him. But both of us know, the likelihood of us actually dating is nil, the longterm potential is not there, I want a guy who is pretty bold, and smart, who acts like a guy, who I know can take care of me (because he wants to not because he HAS to) and who makes me laugh, and my frush is really cute and super nice, but his personality is much MUCH more quiet than that and I am not really willing to risk it not working to try and see if it does, It seems much more complex now that I wrote that all out it works.
I think most people won’t cop to a frush, because they don’t want the drama of people not leaving well enough alone. A frush doesn’t automatically mean you want to date the person, but that doesn’t always work for other friends who will just pick at things until you hate that you mentioned anything in the first place. After talking to a friend this week though, I wonder if guys have Frushes… the gentlemen in question seemed to be saying if he wasn’t gaga over the girl (and at the time, he was hitting himself over the head with a waterbottle to illustrate his point) that he didn’t notice her. That made me think: hmm, maybe this is just a girl phenomenon, or maybe it is just a friends of mine thing, because they all have frushes…
Or maybe I am just weirder than previously estimated.
posted by Shanelle at 5:25 PM
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