Frenimies, of sorts.
I have this friend. At least I think this person is my friend. Or this is my friend when they aren't making me feel absolutely craptastical about myself. So the question posed to the blog is: if the person makes you feel bad 10 percent of the time, but the rest of the time can be a pretty cool person to hang out with, do you stay friends with them or back off.
Because, part of me understands that I should just you know, SAY SOMETHING. Like "hey, you are hurting me," but the other part of me thinks, would I be wasting my time by mentioning anything... I mean in theory I know this person cares about me and during crunch time they have come through. But somedays it kind of feels like, they get a kick out of hurting my feelings (which makes me sound 12). I think somedays they think I can take it really well, because I tend to fake tough really well... and it isn't really fair to stop talking to someone without even mentioning why, right blog readers?
On a lighter note. My team plays in San Diego this weekend.... GO Patriots!
Because, part of me understands that I should just you know, SAY SOMETHING. Like "hey, you are hurting me," but the other part of me thinks, would I be wasting my time by mentioning anything... I mean in theory I know this person cares about me and during crunch time they have come through. But somedays it kind of feels like, they get a kick out of hurting my feelings (which makes me sound 12). I think somedays they think I can take it really well, because I tend to fake tough really well... and it isn't really fair to stop talking to someone without even mentioning why, right blog readers?
On a lighter note. My team plays in San Diego this weekend.... GO Patriots!
posted by Shanelle at 2:10 PM
3 Comments:
This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.
Why spend time with someone who hurts your feelings? Especially when it seems to be a trend,even if it is only 10% of the time.
I'd say unless they are GREAT at apologizing, you can find better waysand better people to spend your time with.
Sometimes it's just easier and better to let them drift away.
Life's to short to feel Craptastic!
I've recently found myself in a very similar situation. In my case I don't think the friend is aware of how they can be hurtful, nor am I confident that a conversation would do any good. Thus I have backed off a little. I still care about this person deeply and know they care about me, and I haven't cut them out completely but I realize I need to not be so close or spend so much time with this person.
If you think saying something would make a difference, I would definitely recommend that. If not, I'd say protect yourself and back off to a safer distance.
Post a Comment
<< Home